主观意识 is it really that bad?

Last post I shared on his one incident. Today incident happens like this: 我们恋爱吧 第五季Relationship S5】EP06上 | 梁潇直球进攻，正装晚宴墨墨飙泪落跑！

Omg, the xiao sun super same like me. 

• Able to withstand very uncomfortable suitation.
• Have something to persist on, I am who I am.
• Doesn't afraid to 负天下人.  

However, 老王说他的主观意识很强。Today I come across this word so I google what does it mean and weather the word applies to me or not. Then I realise that I am also suitable to use this word. Let see what is the defination。 (Subjective consciousness) 

主观意识本身就是人自己的思想，意思就是，没有外界的影响下产生的意识。生活中我们的认知、感觉其实都是主观的。那么我们看到的世界就全是主观的。

如：如果你讨厌一个人，那他做什么你都会觉得他很差劲，而你喜欢一个人，他做什么你都觉得很赞。这种喜欢和讨厌的感觉是我们自己的感受，但一个人的品质差劲与否，与我们主观意识没有关系。那么，如果自己是个悲观主义者，看到世界就是悲观的，什么事情都透露着悲伤的气息。

一般情况下这句话并不是用来夸人的，而是说这个人办事太固执，不尊重现实，脱离现实。所以这句话并不是好话，同时这句话又有警醒作用。

How can I better manage my subjective consciousness so that I can blend in with others? 

Maybe every time when someone gives an opinion or advise, rather than being dismissing them quickly. I should not be looking at their "HOW" level. I should go deeper and listen to their "WHY". Analysis is it something constructive? I think first is to listen more and talk lesser. Can we agree that we can have different opinion and view? 

Or I can do more journaling as I think writing gives me a chance to reflect on the topic of disagreement and give me time to see and reflect the mistakes. If I later realise that I might be wrong, then I should take actions to change or let the person if I have the chance.

I think watching variety show and learn what mistake people did. And also reinforce my own world view. You see I sided with Xiao Sun right. End of the last espidoes, 老王end up being a very good friend with 小孙. You see, people with 主观意识 end up over time will have people like them too.

Haha.